Asteroid Profile – Phaedra
Posted by Karen on Jul 25, 2010 in Asteroid Database | 7 comments
Struggle to make a commitment within relationships? Use sex as a tool of avoidance? Keep attracting those who cannot commit? Know a sex-addict? Find extra-marital affairs exciting?
Perhaps you have natal Phaedra issues!
I very rarely use parallels but thought I’d check them out with Phaedra, because I found no obvious natal aspects apart from a sextile to Mercury. I’d expected to find her connected in some way with my Venus/Saturn opposition – but there’s only a weak conjunction to Venus – a 3 degree conjunction in my 4th house.
There is, however, a tight parallel with Mars and the North Node, which intrigues me. I’m continually attracted to men who can’t commit or who aren’t available … I’m beginning to see that as my way of avoiding any kind of commitment. Despite my fascination for unavailable men I’ve never had an affair with anyone who’s attached – and like to think I wouldn’t, knowingly.
Phaedra sit in Cancer, in my second house, and makes a few interesting aspects: a square to my Aries Sun, a trine to Jupiter in Pisces, and a wide, separating trine to Pluto. But most interesting, I think, is a quincunx to Saturn in 7th house Sagittarius. Saturn is conjunct my Descendant (if you wanted to widen the orb to 4 degrees – which I don’t, particularly – Phaedra would quincunx the Descendant, too).
I have some 7th house “things” to figure out, and this just adds another component. With Saturn there, I take relationships seriously and consider them an important responsibility and something not to be taken lightly. With Uranus there, I crave freedom and have subversive sort of tendencies.
It’s complicated. But now I’ll consider Phaedra’s influence as well.
I have this one in Leo 7th, square Neptune in the 10th. My first husband was having an affair the last year or so, whilst I was pregnant with my princess. Even with all of my ‘powers of psychic brilliance’ I had NO idea, completely naive and Neptune. I was totally wrapped up in my babies but I did detest him for the last 18 months of our marriage and we had not been intimate since I fell pregnant with her and I’d forgotten what a shag was. But at the time he started the affair, I literally had no idea why I detested him and just thought I was a horrible wife. It was like I ‘knew’ it was going on but did not let it click in the brain until I was able to stand on my own two feet. Once I reached that point, he was out the door! THEN it all come out in the wash and the truth came out. I have never held that against him though to be honest as there was zero love left in our marriage by that point, but the way he has behaved in the twelve years since, is mind boggling for someone who can’t keep his zipper sipped.
But the GOOD thing about Phaedra, and Neptune for that matter, is that you only get to stoke that nasty fire in someone a few times before the fire burns the stoker. My present husband already knows how many body bits would be missing if he even dreamed of another woman lol and Neptune is on HIGH alert for any such discretions this way.
I checked this one out in the chart of someone who cheated on me – with at least 3 other women, or so he said – Phaedra in Taurus, square mine. He got under my skin and to my shame, I asked him to come back even after I’d found out about the others. In other words I let him get away with it. To his credit (I suppose) he didn’t come back. Many years ago but I haven’t had a relationship since. It was his 50th birthday recently and I caught myself wondering where and how he is now.
He’s one of the people – the others were the bullies at my school – from whom I put up with appalling behaviour because I wanted to fit, and wanted their company. I attended a training course today about bullying and abuse, and it all came back. Fascinating that these themes are coming up now to be processed and finally discarded, as Pluto makes its final opposition to my natal Sun in tne 2nd house of self worth.
Yeah they’re not nice people. ‘He’ went off and has been with the same women for hmm 11 years now at least. When were on sort of speaking terms, he did say to me once that he wouldn’t marry her, as there are just too many women out there *shiver* such a slimy snake that one BUT my clock wanted to breed and in my sea of musicians, he was the first cute catholic lolol
I followed the link provided, but still unable to understand this Phaedra influence!
Here are her possibilties!
*******Phaedra indicates relationship concerns in the natal chart. In aspect, the individual can push their emotional needs and loss to the side, and bury it beneath unusual sexual practices, sex addiction, commitment issues, and pattern repetition regards unfaithful partners. It is essential to delve into deeper causes here – study luminary and planetary aspects to the Moon, Venus, Mars, Pluto, Neptune and Black Moon Lilith – to uncover the root source of this concern.*******
This paragraph indicates that it is possible for an individual who has Phaedra in strong aspect in the natal chart, to avoid emotional commitment by using sex as an emotional expression – and/or they have solid commitment issues, are prone to being unfaithful and what not.
The possible keywords:-
Possible Keywords: commitment issues, infidelity, negative relationship patterns, sex addiction, using sex to avoid becoming emotionally attached
are self-explanatory!